Relational Depth Therapy with Individuals

Todd Harvey

Schedule an Online Appointment <<– Online, or call 510-686-3390, or email todd at

Individual Psychotherapy with Todd can be helpful:
If you are in a life transition in your relationship or at work,
If you do not feel comfortable in your own skin,
If you find it difficult to tell people what you really think and feel due to a fear of rejection,
If you find it difficult to be who you are in a relationship, etc.

I help people navigate painful transitions
When you meet with me, you can expect to find an empathic space where you can be who you are without any judgement. Having a space to talk about what is going on in your life with somebody who has your side and no vested interest in convincing you to be somebody other than who you are can be quite healing by itself in helping you through your painful experience that brings you to therapy.

I also help people re-wire their blue-prints that set them up life challenges
Our blue-prints for knowing how to relate in the world get put in place by our formative relationships with our parents, early lovers, and significant relationships. Even though our parents, family, religion, and lovers have loved us, they often times have impacted us as well. Malicious and non-malicious abuse and neglect sets us up for protecting ourselves from that abuse and neglect. The problem is that while these ways of protecting ourselves from our imperfect formative experiences were essential to help us get through life, they also set us up for pain. Sometimes we adapt by being a perfectionist or by presuming that we have to earn love in order to be “ok”. Sometimes, we shut ourselves down emotionally and others find it difficult to get close to us.

I firmly believe that almost always depression, anxiety, excessive worry, and challenges in forming friendships and partnerships are rooted in insufficient emotional attunement in formative years. In individual therapy with me, I help you navigate your initial painful transition that brings you in. I also focus in really attuning to your experience and helping you experience being accepted. As our relationship develops, I find it normal that you will internalize an internal resource that presumes that you are acceptable. After this happens, you will find that the normal “pain in the ass life experiences” that you find will still be there, but you will have a different sense of self that will allow you to navigate them with less painful symptoms (of depression, anxiety, etc), and you will find that the quality of your relationships will be enhanced.
Schedule an Online Appointment <<– Online,

or call 510-686-3390, or email todd at